Weekend Residential Retreat with Tsering Paldron

(Residential option FULLY BOOKED but please see below for Day Passes and Zoom options)

Friday 8th March – Sunday 10th March 2024, 16:00- 16:00, The Friars, Aylesford, Kent ME20 7BX

How to Live and Die Well: Teachings on Life and Death from the Tibetan Buddhist Tradition

We are very happy to announce the return of our residential retreats with popular teacher, Tsering Paldron, for a weekend residential retreat at The Friars, a beautiful place dedicated to contemplation since 1242.

One of the most important preparations for death is to learn how to live. Learning how to live in a good way. Everybody has to die, and we don’t know when we are going to die. When we say we don’t know when we are going to die, it doesn’t mean that we have lots of time. It could be any time, it could be tonight, tomorrow, next month, next year or many years. It’s not necessarily that we have lots of time, even if we are not sick or anything like that. So, therefore, we have to be prepared. So how to prepare? I think the most important thing is that to live and accept and understand that we can die at any time. And sometimes this practice, this understanding, deeply understanding and accepting the impermanence and uncertainty, people sometimes think it’s not a nice thing because many people actually think that death is a punishment, something very bad. From a Buddhist point of view, death is not a punishment, it’s a natural phenomenon. Birth is a natural phenomenon, for as long as there is birth then there has to be death.”

– Ringu Tulku Rinpoche

Tsering will use this text as a guide for the day retreat: Root Verses on the Six Bardos.

Bardo (Tibetan): A transitional state; in-between.
Most Buddhists, when they hear the word ‘bardo’ think of the period between death and rebirth. In fact, in the Tibetan tradition, this is just one of six transitional states of experience in samsaric existence.

We are continually in a state of transition, all of our experiences are impermanent fleetingly perceived phenomena. These can be classified as six types of bardo, distinct periods of states of consciousness:

1. The bardo of life
2. The bardo of sleep and dreams
3. The bardo of meditation
4. The bardo of dying
5. The bardo of dharmata (‘clear light’)
6. The bardo of becoming

We all transition through these states, but generally blindly, simply following our emotional reactions and habitual tendencies. During this weekend retreat, Tsering will map out these six states and how we can meet each one with wisdom and compassion for our benefit, and the benefit of all beings. Learning how to live well prepares us to die well, and helps us accomplish the highest potential within each of us.




Board and Lodging Per Person

£199.00 – single room
£179.00 – shared room (if yourself and another are going to the retreat, + would like to share a room please indicate when you book; ensuite rooms included).

5 rooms have ensuite facilities which will be prioritised for those with medical conditions, all other rooms are required to share the bathroom facilities. All rooms have a wash basin, and you will be supplied with towels and complimentary toiletries.

Deposit required £50.00 per person which is non-refundable.

The cost is inclusive of two nights and meals for the duration of the retreat. The cost is not inclusive of “dana”/“generosity” or donations for Tsering our teacher for the duration of the retreat. There will therefore be a collection during the weekend for Tsering, please give what you can and reflect on the value of the teachings you are receiving when doing so. Thank you for your generosity.

If you would like to attend this retreat, but are struggling with funds, then please see here, thank you.

To secure your space on this retreat, please contact:

Kelly Merryweather via email on the following address: Kellymerryweather@googlemail.com


Breakfast, lunch, dinner, tea, and coffee will be provided and is included within the price.

Please make your food preference known when booking, i.e vegetarian or vegan and any allergies.

All meals are served in the 13th Century Pilgram’s Hall located in the Great Courtyard.

Day Passes

If you would like to come for the teachings each day but not stay at the Friars, then you are most welcome. There is a suggested donation of £80 or give what you can to attend the teachings, Friday – Sunday, that you can make on the day or on our donation page here, thank you for your generosity.

This is not a drop-in retreat, as the teachings form a complete cycle, so you are asked to please attend all sessions where possible, thank you. Please see the Teaching Schedule below.

You can bring your own lunch or purchase lunch at the restaurant at the Friars.

You will still need to book by emailing Kelly Merryweather via email on the following address: kellymerryweather@googlemail.com to receive more information and the complete itinerary, thank you.

To Attend on Zoom

Meeting ID: 897 9566 2518
Password: 700887
Teaching Schedule
Friday 5:30pm
Saturday 10:30 – 12:30 and 3:30pm – 5:30pm
Sunday 10:30 – 12:30

How to find the Friars

By Road
The Friars, Aylesford, Kent ME20 7BX (use ME20 7BY for SATNAV)
Use M20 and exit at junction 6 then follow signs to Eccles and The Friars.
Or from M2 exit at junction 3 then follow the signs (towards Maidstone A229) to Eccles and The Friars
Coaches must approach and leave The Friars via Eccles and not via Aylesford Bridge or Aylesford village.
If using satellite navigation, please enter HIGH STREET, BULL LANE or ME20 7BY

By Train

London Victoria to Maidstone East then take a taxi to The Friars.
London St Pancras, change at Strood for Aylesford, then an approx. 20 minute walk or short taxi journey.
London Victoria to West Malling then take a taxi to The Friars.

To secure your space on this retreat, please contact:

Kelly Merryweather via email on the following address: kellymerryweather@googlemail.com

“What is Inner Peace?” with Tsering Paldron

Tuesday 12th March 2024, 20:00- 21:45, Quaker Meeting House, Northgate, Rochester, Kent, ME1 1LS

What is Inner Peace and How to Realise it for Ourselves and the World.



We are very happy to announce that popular teacher, Tsering Paldron, will be giving a Dharma talk at our regular Tuesday night meditation and reflection evening on the 12th of March. Tsering will be talking on what “inner peace” means from the Buddhist point of view, how we can slowly begin to realise it and how inner peace relates to outer peace in our lives and our world.

To attend on Zoom

Meeting ID: 897 9566 2518
Password: 700887

Donation (Dana)

A voluntary donation of £10 (if you can) to keep the group self-sustainable and support its activities. Your presence is always valued more than your money.

You can donate here, thank you for your generosity

The 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva by Ngulchu Zangpo

Taught by Shri Dharmakirti

On Zoom, Sundays for 4 weeks, starting on the 17th March at 10:15am GMT


Thogme Zangpo  (1295–1369)

Also known as Gyalse Ngulchu Thogme. Was a great master of the Nyingma and Sakya traditions and author of Thirty-seven Practices of a Bodhisattva and a famous commentary on Shantideva’s Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life

The 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva

Thirty Seven Practices of the Bodhisattvas is an important lojong text by Togme Zangpo. In thirty seven verses, it gives instructions on how to follow the bodhisattva path. Kyabjé Trulshik Rinpoche has said that the Eight Verses of Training the Mind represents the short version of lojong, the Thirty Seven Practices is the medium, and the Bodhicharyavatara is the extensive version

Shri Dharmakirti

Shri Dharmakirti, a disciple of His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama. He studied biochemisty in college, and later worked as an advertising executive and computer programmer. He has spent the best part of the past 20 years in retreat in the Kullu valley and at other secluded places.


Shri Dharmakirti’s last four years in retreat have been at the Bodhicharya Meditation Centre in Sikkim, India, made possible by the hospitality and generosity of Ringu Tulku Rinpoche. Ringu Tulku Rinpoche has known Shri Dharmakirti since he was a young boy, as Rinpoche and Dharmakirti’s father were colleagues and friends. Ringu Tulku Rinpoche has been a supportive and influential figure in Shri Dharmakirti’s spiritual life.

“For me, an Indian, this has been a magical treasure hunt to reclaim the most precious spiritual treasure of Mother India, from the Great Treasure House of Dharma called the Dalai Lama of Tibet.”

– Shri Dharmakirti

Sign Up

Please email uk@bodhicharya.org to sign up and receive your translation of the Thirty-Seven Practices of a Bodhisattva that Shri Dharmakirti will be using throughout the four weeks, thank you.

This talk will be given from the Bodhicharya Retreat Centre in Sikkim, India, by Shri Dharmakirti via Zoom.

Zoom Link


Meeting ID: 897 9566 2518

Dana (Donations)

These teachings will be provided on a dana (donation) basis, with all dana going towards supporting Shri Dharmakirti’s retreat. Everyone who wishes to attend is most welcome to do so as a lack of funds will not be an obstacle to receiving the Dharma.

The suggested donation amounts for the course are:
£0 (Give what you can)

Please see here to make your donation and thank you for your generosity.

People new to the Buddha Dharma and seasoned practitioners are all very welcome!